Thursday, March 27, 2008

Ummmm

Ok people, I'm not much one for posting. I would rather YOU post and then I can respond!
Soooo please go to it and I promise I'll reply to your post.
How are you? How is life? love? work? co-workers?

Ok, I will start a poll (since I'm posting anyway)

Since we are here to OWN it... do you consider yourself more HOT or FIERCE?

my answer: totally FIERCE!

Friday, March 14, 2008

What an Amazing role model of a REAL WOMAN.....One of my girl friends just shared this poem with me recently and i thought i would share it with you all : ) enjoy!!

ANYWAY by Mother Teresa

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.

Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.

Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you may win some false friends and some true enemies.

Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you.

Be honest and frank anyway.
Transparency may make you vulnerable.

Be transparent anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, others may be jealous.

Be happy anyway.
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.

Build anyway.
The good you do today may be forgotten tomorrow.

Do good anyway.
People who really want help may attack you if you help them.

Help them anyway.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.

Give the world your best anyway.

You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God.It is never between you and them anyway

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Read...ladies, you owe it to yourself.




This Blog is such a fun idea! This is for you Liza Lanny ;-)

I have read a couple of the past posts regarding men...or should I say boys, haha.
Everyone is in a different situation...

Some are engaged (Big Congrats by the way!) Maybe you are separated, in a relationship, not happy, "settling", single and loving it, or single and desperate...the point is everyone is at a different stage/journey and it's up to us and ONLY us to make the best out of every situation. I myself have my own insecurities, fears, etc. but lately I have really embraced them and decided to OWN IT.

My favorite quote is "The first and best victory is to CONQUER SELF."
I love this saying because I believe we can be our own best friend or our own worst enemy. We know what our shortcomings are but every day, every decision we make we need to OVERCOME and do the best thing.

My grandpa used to say something that was simple but always rang in my ear when I was going to sin...He said, "Always, Always, Always, do the right thing." Thats just good advice for life...Say it out loud, write it down on a post-it and put it on your computer at work, etc.

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Well in regards to the men...er boys ;-) situation...

Here's my advice in a nutshell...

Confidence, Confidence, Confidence. ...It's sexy ladies!!! We have to believe and feel that we are amazing in order for others to believe it.
NOT COCKY though, b/c that is oh so much a turn off.

Independence...Men love it when we are passionate about our work, beliefs, and causes and put them to action. They want to know if for some reason, they fall...you wont break, that you can hold your own. Don't play "the game" but being unavailable from time to time makes you more desirable, FYI.

I was reading Cosmo (I know, I know but this was on a plane and the magazine was left, haha).
I skipped the whole 'try these positions' part...INAPPROPRIATE ;-)...
I did however come across a page, "What Men Want" ...I thought it would all be about sex but surprisingly made a lot of sense. It was a survey thousands of men wrote in and agreed upon. I riped the page out and I wanted to share it with you ladies.



1. Men want a fun and exciting (female) companion.
2. Men want great sex (consistent, frequent, and passionate lovemaking score high with men).
3. Men want to share meals with their woman companion (especially when she cooks for him).
4. Men want you to support them in their work and boost their confidence.
5. Men want you to look great, keep in shape, and express confidence about your body.
6. Men want you to listen to them and treat them with respect.
7. Men need private time, to unwind, to engage in sports and hobbies, and to spend time with other men.



Now this list may seem a little shallow but most of these I think are fair. Are we really doing those things to/with our significant other?


Let me just say real quick... #5 Looking great does not mean you have to be a trophy doll.
Watching our weight, drinking healthy food and water benefits to our own emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health. It is important to love our body.

I could go on and on about what I think WE should work on...Guys, well let's face it, they have endless things that they need to work on!!! But let's not point the blame and just work on ourselves for now...I need to take my own advice now :-)

I just hope my post helped someone. Get some perspective, inspire, etc.

I leave you with a funny quote...


Can you imagine a world without men? No crime and lots of happy fat women.
~Nicole Hollander


OWN IT!!!!!

JMay xxx





Friday, March 7, 2008

Enough is Enough!

Seriously..what is the deal...One girl after another it seems this past week or 2....is broken hearted...is devastated..is confused...is SO discouraged...and over what>?? Men!!

"Is he really out there?"

Some are trying to cling to relationships that are broken for the mere fear of being alone! Some are utterly shocked and betrayed by the revelations of the one guy they thought they knew! And some girls are giving them selves away ...hopelessly...to guys who don't deserve them....and barely even notice them. This is a sad yet epidemic problem.

So what do we do? As women, what should do here? Should we keep begging for scraps of attention from a selfish jerk? Should we run back into the arms of the one who only inevitably hurts us...just bc NOW he says all the right things? OR...Should we despair completely? Should we look in the mirror and tell ourselves how ugly and undesirable we are? Should we put up walls so that we can never be hurt like this again?!

no no and NO!

Sometimes it is SO easy for us to give advice to our friends, to see the problem in another relationship, or to see the beauty in our girlfriend. But for ourselves....we fall so short. We lie to ourselves.,."I'm fat" "I'm too old" "I messed all this up"..."what did I do wrong"..and on and on and on!!

Stop and THINK!

Whatever situation you are in right now...if it wasn't YOU....if it was a friend...what would u tell her??

So LISTEN to you Head..NOT your heart....especially if that heart is broken!

YOU WILL be ok..You will get over this....If you are reading this...I know you...so I can say with confidence that you ARE beautiful...and amazing...and WORTH IT!

Guys are not who they were meant to be. Maybe it's the culture, their age, maturity ETC....but it makes me sad to see how few REAL men there are out there...but there ARE some. And you're not doing yourself ANY favors by settling for one who is NOT.

I just want people ..women specifically to be happy...to realize their worth....and to above all OWN IT!! As trivial as that may sound ladies ...I couldn't be more serious. To Own it...is to love yourself...your looks, your quirks, and all your imperfections....

To own it is to be strong..to stand firm...and to stay true to your beliefs.

To own it means...you will NOT be shaken...you KNOW who you are, and what you need...you know that you are loved..and deserve SELFLESS and true love.

To Own it..is to have faith! Faith that you were made to be loved, faith that your true love WILL come, faith that no matter what hardship you are dealing with RIGHT this second..that YOU can and WILL get past it...you will be OK....and if you put that faith in God you will be BETTER than ok...you will be marvelous...because HE really is the only one who wont let you down.

Bottom line ladies...Stop dwelling & start living, Stop hating on yourself...and start LOVING yourself. love life, and don't look back. Own it today and don't worry about tomorrow.

Wednesday, March 5, 2008

Pilates Reviewed

SO... I went to Pilates again last night with my friend Christina. You know how last time I came home and ate 4 oranges, well last night I had a different kind of craving. I came home and ate cookes and ice cream :-/
Just thought you would want an update on this important matter.

Monday, March 3, 2008

I Kissed Dating Goodbye....

Have you all heard of this? It was new to my ears. This guy wrote a book with this title a while back now, and got heated responses. Despite its sometimes lofty use of protestant lingo, this book has some points worth noting. It has helped me relate concrete means and reasons, for the right kind of dating to my high-school RC team. He has some concepts that really lit some lightbulbs for me.....

http://www.joshharris.com/i_kissed_dating_goodbye.php

IE: "The Seven Habits of Highly Defective Dating"

The titles and subtitles alone got my attention:

1. Dating tends to skip the friendship stage of a relationship
2.Dating Often Mistakes a Physical Relationship for Love
3. Dating Often Isolates a Couple From other Vital Relationships
4. Dating can Distract Young Adults From their Primary Responsiblity of Preparing for the Future.
5. Dating Can Cause Discontentment with God's Gift of Singleness
6. Dating Can Create an Artificial Environment for Evaluating Another Person's Character
7. Dating Often Becomes an End in Itself