Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Free Fallin

So i just wanted to share a little ok BIG triumph that came to me the other day whilst doing some writing in my journal/soul searching....Exactly 5 months ago today i packed up my car to the brim and started my drive from Warren, NJ down to Nashville, TN. Now this may seem like big whoop, but this is coming from the girl who wouldn't even sleep over the friends house across the street when she was younger cause she would get home sick : ) I was kinda having a hard time this past week just missing home and friends and really feeling down and asking the question What am i even doing here and what has this time done for me?? Then amidst all this feeling of defeat....it came to me I DID IT.......I conquered my fear of leaving the known and going into the unknown. I was remembering my first time going off a diving board and literally taking me about 30-45 minutes to get from the board to the water clinging onto it for dear life not trusting that my dad would actually catch me, then the relief when i finally released and fell into the unknown and how all this fear i had built up in me was washed away so quickly. Now i feel as though i can jump from the highest mountain. The Lord asked me to leap for the trillionth time and this time for some reason my super stubborn spirit did not get the best of me and i leapt......It has been hard at times but i have been blessed more so then ever before! Today i celebrate owning the fact that i have CONQUERED this life long fear : )

Doo dah doo..

Morning Everyone.. Today is GROSS outside here in NYC... and I personally think work should be canceled.  Just because I really dont think it was fair that I had to get out of my comfy cozy bed this morning - only to face Tons of rain & gushing winds!!! Ew... After all...

ahhhh I digress.. I just can't win today - work wins every time.  Well to brighten my day a little bit - & to forget about the rain outside, I will be turning up the speakers in my office. I'll be DIMC (Dancing In My Chair) -Obvi.. Gotta listen to good tunes to bring back some joy into my rainy day.... I love this one - makes me smile... ttyl - Stay Cozy!

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Friday, March 26, 2010

All You Need Is Love

So Simple. So True.
(provided by Keep Calm)

Embrace Love.Share Love.Be Love.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Develop an Attitude of Gratitude

When you are having trouble Owning it.. A quick fix is to think of 3 things you are GRATEFUL for.

"When you are grateful - fear disappears and abundance appears"

"Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow "

"Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation."

"Gratitude is a vaccine, an antitoxin, and an antiseptic"

“God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say "thank you?"

One more for the Road...

"Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it."


Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Morning Prayers

“We must take great care never to do anything before having said our Morning Prayers…The devil once declared…that if he could have the first moment of the day, he was sure of all the rest.” (St. John Vianney)

If it's FREE - It's For Me!!

Well hello there ladies.. (and gentlemen too)..
Who doesn't love ice cream??.. And furthermore who doesn't love FREE ice cream!!?!?!?

"Free" & "Ice Cream" are 2 of my FAVORITE things in the world!! Well lucky me - bc today at Ben & Jerry's (yum) Nationwide - it is FREE CONE DAY!!!!!!
That's right - from 12 PM - 8 PM TODAY we can stop in and get a free treat from our fave ice cream stop.

Personally I am head over Heeeels for their "Sweet Cream & Cookies" Flavor- maybe it sounds simple and not as exciting as some of their other creations.. but it is PERFECTION. Today is just one of those days that dieting and calories simply must fall to the bottom of my priorities list.. it is practically a National Holiday after all.  What is YOUR favorite Ben & Jerry's Flavor? For a whole list of options go here!


Thursday, March 18, 2010


This video says it all. Be conscious of what society is telling us and recognize your beauty just the way you are!

The Climb

Maybe it's because I have been overwhelmed lately..

Maybe it's because I live WAY to much in the future...

Maybe it's because I try to CONTROL everything & don't Trust God enough...

Maybe it's because there is a good chance I am PMS-ing :)...

Maybe it's because I have had many convos with single friends lately about their struggles waiting for THAT guy to come along...

Maybe it's because I just started the daunting task of planning a wedding on no budget & have been filled with Anxiety...

Maybe it's because my very painful family situation is about to hit another Bump in the road...

Maybe it's because I have been working nonstop lately & feel drained...

Maybe it's because I have set many goals for myself that I am NOT Living UP to...

Maybe it's because I am focusing too much on "What is going to Happen?" & "How will it turn out!!??"...

OR, Maybe it is simply because I haven't been OWNING IT...

But for SOME reason.. This song moved me to tears today.

I always liked it... despite the fact that I am Not a big Miley fan.. But today it spoke to me like no other day.

No matter WHAT it is in my life.. I am looking towards something!! I am either planning for it - dreading it - waiting for it - hoping for it - or just thinking IT will be Life Changing.

OUR LIFE IS SPENT IN THE NEXT MOMENT.. looking to the next thing. Whether we think it will make us SO happy or we think It will be SO big & stressful.  We focus on the destination & not the Journey. 

"There's always going to be another mountain
I'm always going to want to make it move
Always going to be an uphill battle,
Sometimes I'm going to have to lose,
Ain't about how fast I get there,
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb"

Why am I focusing on tomorrow when I have a perfectly good Today!? Why do I focus on the What IFs? I think I have to control it ALL.  I have to figure it ALL out today and plan everything out perfectly.  I have to Know the next step - See exactly where I am going - and Resolve that I will relax Later.

This is NO way to live. This is no way to Own it. I need to soak up today for what it is & TRUST that God has gotten me this far & isn't Going Anywhere.  I have to trust that In those NEXT moments - Even the really scary ones.. that God will be there WITH me.

I need to stop focusing on the Negative thoughts - I need to Tell my FEARS goodbye!
Because Seriously - I can DO this. But not on My own.
I need to say:

HERE God take my struggles - take my fears - Take My what IFS - Take My Hopes - Take My plans - Take My future- Because YOU can carry them and you can LEAD me up that mountain.  If I climb with you I can make it to the top in one piece - and I can actually ENJOY the view on the way.

Here's to hope. Here's to Faith. Here's to LIVING in today.

I am taking a break here & taking a look around... I am soaking up today for what it is. And as luck would have it - the Sun is BRIGHT outside.

"Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift"

Saturday, March 13, 2010

The Littlest Own It Girl with some BIG Ownage

A friend of mine sent me this article a few days ago, detailing an amazing story of a small girl who followed the theme that we all talk about and strive for. Owning It. The short story is about Nujood, a 10 year-old girl, whose father arranged for her to be married to a man in his mid-thirties. Her husband was physically and sexually abusive towards her and treated her as a slave and animal. She knew this was not right and snuck away to find a judge and get divorced, not at all a common practice in her native country, Yemen. She has gone on to write her memoir as a 10 y/o divorcee and has now inspired other young girls in similar situations to do the same.

I think her story merits a bit more time and attention than we usually offer- as she has not been afforded the many privileges and comforts that we often forget are not universal in all countries and societies. Such as equal rights for women, equal opportunity to education, financial stability, societal approval of independent women, and laws protecting minors of sexually exploitative relationships.

Nujood exemplifies a different kind of "Owning It". A lot of our experiences with Owning It relate to taking risks, improving our self-esteem, finding meaning and value in our lives, and remembering what is important. And don't be mistaken- these are all great things!! But Nujood was owning her future, her life, her safety and essentially Owning the future path for other girls in her same circumstance.

She saw truth when all the people around her told her to believe otherwise and tried to convince her of the lies. She stood firm and sought out what was good and right, even when the people closest to her allowed her to enter into a relationship that was wrong and dangerous for her. by herself. alone. as an individual- she went up against religious practices, societal expectations, unequal gender roles, deep-seated cultural norms, the disapproval of her community, and her abusive husband. How scary to challenge and stand firm against all of this at only 10 years and in a society and culture that does not support her!

I, as all of you, try as much as I can to Own It in the best way I know how: the little every day things. Accepting compliments. Taking risks in my career. Not complaining and looking for the good. Accepting feedback, even when its hard. Helping others. Pushing myself and not giving in.....Just to name a few. And when I think of the magnitude of Nujood's situation and the choice she made in her life, for her life- I am not only inspired, but moved, even compelled to Own It. I realize that there are SO many examples and models to follow and be motivated by, I have no excuse but to keep at it- even when its really hard!

My admiration goes out to Nujood and the girls that have followed her for Owning It- when her life depended on it.

Friday, March 12, 2010

You learn and learn and learn...

“After awhile you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul. And you learn that love doesn't mean security, And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts And presents aren't promises. And you begin to accept your defeats with you head up and your eyes open. With the grace of maturity, not the grief of a child. And you learn to build all your roads on Today because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans, And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight. After awhile you learn that even sunshine burns if you get too much. So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, Instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers. And you learn that you really can endure... That you really are strong And that you really do have worth. And you learn and learn and learn .... With every goodbye you learn.”

Thursday, March 11, 2010

I Get To Marry Him!!!!!

YES - you heard correctly: I Am Engaged!!!

I couldn't be more BLESSED to have found him..The Love of My LIFE: Leyland

He proposed in Central Park as we were strolling through on a perfect Saturday afternoon.  We had gone to brunch earlier, then popped into the MET for a couple of hours. Afterwards, he suggested we walk through the park since it looks so gorgeous right after it snows. 
 Leyland had his laptop bag with him that day, and had told me he might have to go into work later on. Turns out there was a blanket in there NOT a computer.  He put the blanket down on some benches (covered in snow) and we sat down.  He then gave me a Book titled "100 Reasons That I Love You" written & printed by HIM.  

As I read through the book, I couldn't believe what was happening - and I was anxious to get to the end - but there were literally 100 pages!! Pages filled with inside jokes, sweet sentiments, and incredible words letting me know just HOW much he loved me. When I finished the last page, I looked up to see him kneeling on one knee in the snow staring up at me with his big green eyes. He said "Will you Marry me???" with the biggest smile on his face.  I replied: "For Real!???" I literally couldn't believe what was happening.  The next thing I knew he pulled out the ring & it took my breath away...

After that we went back to my apartment - where my roomies had set up dozens of bouquets of roses, candles & champagne - My Sister even had Our Song playing when we walked in!!  There were clothes laid out for us in my room & we got all fancied up to go downtown to Alta (where we had our very first real date).

When we walked in I was Floored to see my FAMILY & friends all there waiting to congratulate us!!! This moment was truly incredible.  I had always pictured getting engaged and being able to celebrate with my family right after - but never told him that.  The fact that he planned it all for me.. down to the last detail - exactly how I always imagined - meant the WORLD.

The rest of the night was fantastic!! We went out in the village for some NYC dancing and partied the night away with friends...
Well there you have it. Our engagement story. The most unforgettable day! I am blown away everyday by him - and am certainly counting my MANY Blessings.

This is me.. on Cloud 9.. my new home. I plan to stay here for awhile. And I plan on Owning it daily. xoxo

Monday, March 8, 2010

Celebrate OUR Day!

Did you know that today is Women's Day? Well it IS.

A brief history (Published by the United Nations Department of Public Information)

International Women's Day (8 March) is an occasion marked by women's groups around the world. This date is also commemorated at the United Nations and is designated in many countries as a national holiday. When women on all continents, often divided by national boundaries and by ethnic, linguistic, cultural, economic and political differences, come together to celebrate their Day, they can look back to a tradition that represents at least nine decades of struggle for equality, justice, peace and development.

International Women's Day is the story of ordinary women as makers of history; it is rooted in the centuries-old struggle of women to participate in society on an equal footing with men. In ancient Greece, Lysistrata initiated a sexual strike against men in order to end war; during the French Revolution, Parisian women calling for "liberty, equality, fraternity" marched on Versailles to demand women's suffrage.

The idea of an International Women's Day first arose at the turn of the century, which in the industrialized world was a period of expansion and turbulence, booming population growth and radical ideologies. Following is a brief chronology of the most important events:

1909 In accordance with a declaration by the Socialist Party of America, the first National Woman's Day was observed across the United States on 28 February.

1910 The Socialist International, meeting in Copenhagen, established a Women's Day, international in character, to honour the movement for women's rights and to assist in achieving universal suffrage for women.

1911 International Women's Day was marked for the first time (19 March) in Austria, Denmark, Germany and Switzerland, where more than one million women and men attended rallies. In addition to the right to vote and to hold public office, they demanded the right to work, to vocational training and to an end to discrimination on the job.

Less than a week later, on 25 March, the tragic Triangle Fire in New York City took the lives of more than 140 working girls, most of them Italian and Jewish immigrants. This event had a significant impact on labour legislation in the United States, and the working conditions leading up to the disaster were invoked during subsequent observances of International Women's Day.

1913-1914 As part of the peace movement brewing on the eve of World War I, women held rallies either to protest the war or to express solidarity with their sisters.

1917 With 2 million Russian soldiers dead in the war, Russian women again chose the last Sunday in February to strike for "bread and peace". Political leaders opposed the timing of the strike, but the women went on anyway. The rest is history: Four days later the Czar was forced to abdicate and the provisional Government granted women the right to vote. That historic Sunday fell on 23 February on the Julian calendar then in use in Russia, but on 8 March on the Gregorian calendar in use elsewhere.

Since those early years, International Women's Day has assumed a new global dimension for women in developed and developing countries alike. The growing international women's movement, which has been strengthened by four global United Nations women's conferences, has helped make the commemoration a rallying point for coordinated efforts to demand women's rights and participation in the political and economic process. Increasingly, International Women's Day is a time to reflect on progress made, to call for change and to celebrate acts of courage and determination by ordinary women who have played an extraordinary role in the history of women's rights.

to see what women are doing around the world on this day you can check this out: http://www.internationalwomensday.com/

I think it is PRETTY awesome that just last night the very first Woman won the Oscar for Best Director! An award I dreamed of winning as a little girl.  
 Congrats to you Kathryn Bigelow!!!!!!!!

Today especially - let's stop and take a look BACK at where we have been as a Gender...Look at the present to see where we are... And look to the FUTURE to see where we hope to be...

I personally hope for a future of women that are FREE to do anything  - but Choose to do GOOD. I hope for a world full of Women that are Strong but delicate - Courageous but Graceful - Confident but Humble - Equal but Different... Women with Dignity, class & Ferocity.  

A world of  Women who Own it.

Tuesday, March 2, 2010

Our very own BRIDE to BE!!!!

Can I just give a SHOUT out to our own "Own It" founder who is getting married!! And request that Ms. Liza share ALL the details with us who haven't heard them yet! I'm dying to know how your man did it! I am sooo excited for you and want to take a moment and celebrate, you, Liza, and this beautiful and exciting new adventure unfolding in your life!

commitment leads to action

"Commitment leads to action.
Action brings your dream closer."

~Marcia Wieder

I'm not sure who Marcia Wieder is, but I am loving this quote, especially as it relates to the recent posts here on Own it. Time to take the actions that will lead to making dreams reality!